“…you like your computer, huh?”
Out of the mouths of babes! Ouch! TheBoy said this to me last night when I sat down next to him, with my computer, so that we could do a video chat with CarKiller. Obviously I have been spending too much time on the computer. It’s not that I didn’t know I was, but rather I had fooled myself into thinking that somehow I could spend “too much” time on it and still do a good job of mothering my children, keeping the home, loving my husband. If it is significant enough for a 3 year old to make that observation, it is significant enough for me to make some changes.
I’m not going to go off of the deep end and swear off the internet or blogging or using my computer as a tool. I am going to get my act together and pay more attention to the message that my behavior and choices send to my kids (and Chief!) I am going to reset my priorities and put things like computer use in their proper place.
My computer is a well used tool for many things… lesson plans, daily routines/schedules, banking, keeping in contact with friends, feeling like I am part of a bigger community… and it is great resource for school and other general knowledge type things (it is now also a tool I use in supporting my daughters in their theater quests.) I can and do use it for good purposes. But I am also overusing it. (Clearly.) It is so easy to think, “oh, I have a minute, I’ll just check this,” and find that 30 or 60 minutes have passed.
This morning, I came up with a plan for a weekly routine. I don’t know how it will work. These things need a test run to see if they really fit. How it looks on paper is not always how it works in real life and it often needs tweaking. I have scheduled my computer time into my day. Instead of running to check this or that frequently, I’ll use it when I am scheduled to use it and not more (this does not include looking up something on the internet with the kids to enhance their learning or to discover just what bug that is on our porch, of course, but it does answer to all of the wasted time on the computer.) There is nothing that I have to say that is important enough to give up quite so much time, nor is there much out there that others have to say that I should be so distracted that my little one need tell me that I love my computer. No, he should notice how much I love him, his siblings, his dad, not a machine.
I mentioned that when I came up with some kind of plan that I would share it here. I have uploaded a pdf with the plan I’m going to begin to implement (mostly… we’re not doing school yet) this week. I just used the 2-page weekly planner pages for this. I do not have Sunday on the schedule. I know the minimums of what needs to be done: Mass, food, prayer, but I also intend to do what I must and honor the day as a day of rest and relaxation and family time.
God bless you!